We’re coming up on it quickly. January 19th. Know what it is? It’s National Quitter’s Day. The day you’re most likely to quit on your new year’s resolution.
I’m here to help you make sure that doesn’t happen.
So over the next few blog posts I am going to go over my goal setting magic formula. We’ll it’s not magic like Harry Potter charms. But it sure seems to work that way. Walk through these steps with me with an open mind and we’ll have you all fired up to DESTROY your 2020 new year’s resolution.
Are you ready?
Step one: Ask yourself if you know what you really want.
This is BY FAR the number one problem with the goals people set. They don’t really want it.
I hear you. “Brendon I really WANT to lose 20 pounds.” But the reasons WHY behind losing those 20 pounds aren’t there. Or if they are they aren’t important enough.
Here are a few problems that you likely have with your current goals:
You judged your bigger goals
This is a thing and we all do it. When that really big, really cool, really exciting idea popped into your head for your new years resolution, you judged it and dismissed it. Here is some judging language you likely used. Stop me when I stop telling the truth:
- “There’s no way I can do that.”
- “I’m not smart enough.”
- “Someone is already doing that.”
- “It will take too long.”
- “I don’t have the time, money, or both.”
- “I’ll never be able stick to it.”
I guarantee that you used this language and tossed a goal aside because of it. Do NOT judge your goals. Ever. Go back and revisit those goals you judged.
They don’t fire you up
We’re all emotional beings. That’s just a fact. We try to make rational decisions, but we ultimately act emotionally. We might as well leverage that. Does your goal give you the chills? Do you smile to yourself when you think about accomplishing it? Does it spring you out of bed in the morning? Do you get goose bumps and chicken skin? Does it scare you a bit? If not, then rethink your goal.
It’s not your goal at all. It’s someone else’s.
We do what mom and dad would have wanted. We default to the societal norms for age, gender, race, religion, and economic class. It’s what you think your spouse wants. Go to college. Get a job that doesn’t pay the bills. Retire without enough money. Die.
Listen, it’s really freaking hard to change your life and the world by staying in your lane.
You fear change
If this post hasn’t landed yet, I’ll bet it just did for you. Big goals require change. And I’m not just talking about your habits and lifestyles. Your life might have to change too: friends, loved ones, careers. These can be uncomfortable things. But being comfortable usually means not doing the very things that will cause a breakthrough. It’s scary but it might need to happen.
What hit home for you? Do you really even want your new years resolution? Maybe it’s time to rethink it and make National Quitter’s Day the day you start all over. I’ll help you do that in the next blog posts.